Don’t Own the Gaslighting, Mansplaining, “People Pleaser” Trope

September 9, 2022 2 Minute Read 

Odd. When a man works toward a non-self-interested goal he’s crowned with laurels of self-sacrificing martyrdom. He’s a Team Player! When women do the same a cruel wreath of thorns is placed on their heads: She’s a People Pleaser! 

Don’t Buy It: Women make better leaders: Harvard Business said so. Twice. Other studies back them up. Let’s look at the science*.


Who’s more likely to:

  • Attend to people’s personal needs  ✓ That point goes to women
  • Be open to new ideas and other’s opinions  That point goes to women too!
  • Do better during crises. ✓ 40 per cent fewer COVID-19 deaths were recorded in nations run by women vs. men.
Also “Women were rated significantly more positively than men [when it relates to] overall leadership effectiveness,” according, again, to a Harvard study.
  • Reward satisfactory performance in a consistent manner ✓ Guess; just guess. Research backs it up.
  • Narcissism Score: Men are proven to be more narcissistic than women. So much so, that in a study of 475,000 participants, newsflash; men have more “various interpersonal dysfunctions, including an inability to maintain healthy long-term relationships, unethical behavior and aggression” So another  ✓

Narcissism Part Deux – Entitlement (Surprise!) : Men are more likely than women to exploit others and feel entitled to certain privileges.” 

One wonders where the term “People Pleaser” came from…. You Decide

#leadership #women #womeninbusiness #womenempowerment

* Sources:

  1. COVID Leaders
  2. Women Crisis
  3. Gender differences in narcissism
  4. Why women are better leaders then men
  5. Buried Treasure: Contradictions in the Perception and Reality of Women’s Leadership
  6. Women Score Higher Than Men in Most Leadership Skills